Life is great these days, and will get better as each day goes by. You and I are both going to be pretty well off, find our fulfillment in life, and all the meanwhile, learn a shit load of cool stuff.
Maybe there will be dips here and there. Everyone eats a shit sandwich somewhere sometimes. But overall, our lives have already been great so far.
It seems that the world thrives on tragedy and fiasco these days. People complain about the weather, their jobs, their spouses, bosses, in-laws, the president, and that coworker who got the promotion and totally doesn't deserve it. Media of course can't make as much money telling wholesome stories like "a fluffy fox mom with three cubs were in the grass by the Eastern Pennsylvania suburb this morning...", but rather they'd want to report "hackers took over the Twitter account of the London Police Service..."
When have we become so oblivious of the things that we already have? Our freedom, liberty, abundant source of food, air quality, the occasional polite strangers that helped us out at one point or another.
Don't fall into this negative trap. Don't.
Of course, you may have heard this proven hypothesis that happiness is marginalized, that experiment where the lottery winner or the person who lost a limb from a tragic accident both eventually have their happiness level return back to before the incident that has happened to them. This seems very gloomy of a theory actually is liberating in a way that we can personally change our happiness level.
I am here to tell you that deciding to be happy IS A THING.
Here's a funny story about deciding to be happy. This one time I insisted on buying an electric lawn mower and mowing the lawn myself despite of everyone I asked said I should get a gas mower, because I am an independent strong woman who needs no help (RAWR!). The first time I used the electric lawn mower, I was so frustrated with it because I have to have an extension cord following me around all the time, and trying not to run through it with the mower. Of course, the second time I attempted to cut my grass, I cut the extension cord half way through mowing the lawn. Man, so that was very short lived, I thought. My rainbow colored bubble of being this fierce female warrior was popped in this hot summer day and I was very distraught and embarrassed at the same time. It took me about an hour to let my emotions subside, but afterwards, I felt hard to cheer myself up again. I was driving to the hardware store to pick up another extension cord and I was playing the scene of me cutting the wire over and over again in my head, and at that moment I had been dwelling on this for two hours now. I realized I was punishing myself for such a small mistake that is fixable, almost funny, and so very small! I thought to myself, I can still think about it and relive it however my brain wants, but I am deciding to be happy from this second on. Almost like a switch, my brain is still contemplating on the event that has happened, but the negativity of how incompetent of a human being I was started disappearing.
This probably requires frequent practice to say to oneself, I have decided to be happy today. You don't need anything to be happy. You don't have to chase happiness. But you can decide to be happy, today, this very moment, and it will come.
"I don’t know why we take our worst moods so much more seriously than our best, crediting depression with more clarity than euphoria. We dismiss peak moments and passionate love affairs as an ephemeral chemical buzz, just endorphins or hormones, but accept those 3 A.M. bouts of despair as unsentimental insights into the truth about our lives. It’s easy now to dismiss that year as nothing more than the same sort of shaky, hysterical high you’d feel after getting clipped by a taxi. But you could also try to think of it as a glimpse of reality, being jolted out of a lifelong stupor. It’s like the revelation I had the first time I ever flew in an airplane as a kid: when you break through the cloud cover you realize that above the passing squalls and doldrums there is a realm of eternal sunlight, so keen and brilliant you have to squint against it, a vision to hold on to when you descend once again beneath the clouds, under the oppressive, petty jurisdiction of the local weather."
-- We Learn Nothing, Tim Kreider
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